Need guy advice, guys and gals welcome to answer!?

My bf says that I try to control everyhting in our relationship. What I wanna know is, is this a problem of mine? Am I going about this wrong? He says that I debate with him about everything and that the woman is suppose to be submissive and a man always has to be a man. He said I makes him feel like he's the child and I'm the parent.Need guy advice, guys and gals welcome to answer!?
Well, he is wrong in his interpretation of the use of the term ';Submissive.'; You are not the slave and he is not the master. It has never been right to think as he seems to on that subject. He's referring to a Biblical passage and he's got the meaning all wrong.





However, if you are a controller, as many women and men are, it is a problem of yours. It is a personality trait that is most irritating to the guy or spouse.





There is nothing, absolutely nothing wrong with a little healthy debate. It's a problem when you give him the feeling that you must always be ';right,'; even when he knows you to be voicing only your opinion, which may be ';wrong'; at any given moment.





My spouse is sometimes that way. Last night I said something about ';Thanks for supper.'; She immediately corrected me by saying ';Its dinner, not supper.'; I was having Bangers and Mash, for God's sake, not a five course sit down. Where I grew up, no matter how large the meal was, the evening meal was always ';Supper'; and not ';Dinner.';





If that sort of thing happens a lot with you two ..... you have a problem.





HobNeed guy advice, guys and gals welcome to answer!?
Submissive?? Man, that guy does not know anything about women....





You are being a woman... Nothing wrong with that... A mature guy will love this about you and will know exactly how to manage it. Nothing for you to worry about. You just need to find someone who has a few more years of experience...
Sorry, you just have not found the right person who can relate to you. There is that person out there....(Like attracts Like) remember that...
I think guys are just like that. I have heard my friends say their guy feels like they are the child and the girl is like the parent. Guys just need to realize that we are NOT submissive and that we do have a voice. I think alot of times they confuse being bossy.. for not letting them make every decision. But no matter what the case is, you can not change anyone.... so I would start seriously talking about this or moving on. But don't worry... I am guessing with out knowing you that you are NOT bossy....
relationships should be 50/50, maybe you are being controlling, did you have any past relationships where the man controlled you? maybe you think he's trying to control you from bad memories from the past and if this the case, i would try to talk to your boyfriend about it and try to overcome this. and your boyfriend has to get that comment about how the man is supposed to be dominant and the woman is submissive too, that don't help matters either. and it also sounds to me that he's living in the early 1900's to be saying that to you. good luck.
No, you're not being anything but your ';Gender';(Woman-Female)! As a Woman, it is in your ';Nature'; to know about every detail, so you can be ';the problemsolver, provider, protector, and comfort,'; to your family and friends, and to your own ';Peace of Mind!';


When A Woman LOVES, She LOVES 100%, and She will not let any harm, bad decisions, or foolishness, come to those in Her life...


It sounds like your b/f isn't a man nor does He know ';The Definition'; of ';The Word'; Man. If he did, then He wouldn't be so Darn ';Insecure'; about you trying to keep him from making ';Poor-Decisions'; then suffering from those ';Poor-Choices.';


Have you ever heard this ';Phrase?'; Two Mules are better than One?


A Woman is supposed to ';Respectful,'; NOT ';Submissive!'; If She were, then we wouldn't make-it past ';Infancy,'; because we wouldn't have anyone to ';Nurse-Us';(Care) and ';Mend-Us'; or our clothes, when we ';Tore-Them'; while ';Playing';(Growing-Up)!! Muchless, ';Lead-Us'; in ';The Right Direction,'; for our Adult Lives....


As A Woman, BE FIRM with him, but also be ';Patient,'; while you are ';Leading'; him in the direction that you want him to follow and take...


Good Luck!!
dear friend, can you say a bit more of this, because from what you has said it is neither bad nor good. Neither of you should be controlling and neither of you should be submissive. The only problem is that this ideal situation will only remain as long as you are not married, the moment you are married it is just going to sound like the way your bf has said it.


Are you sure you are not married yet? (just kidding)
Well, in most relationships the woman is submissive, but a woman can also be the opposite. Sometimes we feel that we need to butt in on people's problems and tell them what to do but the truth is we should just suggest. You should give your boyfriend some space, i'm sure everything will go swell.








Good Luck!